Prioritize time for friends and family, hobbies, and simple pleasures. As important as it is to invest in your relationship while apart, you also have to invest in your own individual lives. You can’t put your life on hold in those circumstances. I’m also a big fan of sending stuff through snail mail, even if it’s just a silly card.Īs a military couple for 13 years, we didn’t have any control over when we could see each other or even if there was access to email or phone. I like communicating about random stuff throughout the day, like something funny I heard or sending a picture of something interesting I saw on a walk, and that’s even more important when you can’t see the other person much. I’ve always been a chronic texter so anyone I was in a LDR with had to be one also.
Trips to Target were something I really looked forward to. I would always want to do “normal” couple things, like just hanging around the house and going grocery shopping. I found it was important to try to be with each other for longer periods, so you get to know each other as you go about your routines. It’s easy to fall into the “vacation” mentality if you only see each other on weekends. When we saw each other, we went out together with our friends so that when we were apart and would say to each other “I am going out with the guys/girls,” we could picture it and feel part of it. We would arrange to watch the same movie and then discuss it later. We talked for hours every night on MSN messenger (we weren’t on Facebook back then), we sent letters through the mail, and we talked on the phone. We would never leave one another without booking our next trip. system, I got a break every six weeks, so we planned to see each other regularly. If you’re deciding whether or not a long-distance relationship is right for you and the person you’re with, you might be wondering: How often should you text or talk on the phone or visit each other? How do you stay present in the moment, or happy, when you’re alone and not with them? What kind of routines or ways of communicating will make you closer? Below, anonymous long-distance couples share their advice and tips for making a long-distance relationship work.Īs a school teacher in the U.K.
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